Kerry Fraser said: That's the key, and it holds true at all levels. My son is a Peewee defenseman, and a lot of his games are called loosely because the refs think "Hey, it's AA... we'll let the kids play." But the same thing happens nearly every game: 1. Our goalie freezes the puck 2. No whistle 3. Opposing forwards hack at the goalie (not their fault... they're doing their job by playing hard to the whistle) 4. Our D "protects the goalie" 5. Mutual pushing and shoving 6. Repeat and escalate. By the end of some games, we've degenerated into head shots, cross checks, and boarding. All avoidable if referees (as Fraser says) have their thermometers ready following the opening puck drop and to take the game temperature frequently. Before most games, I quietly remind them to blow the whistle as soon as the puck is frozen and call it tight in the first period, and warn them about what might happen if they don't.